Tuesday, March 3, 2009
Good News
I haven't posted in awhile (is that the most common phrase to start a blog or what?). I'm glad to say it is because things are going very well. We are going through Julie Fast's book, Loving Someone With Bipolar and are in the process of developing Health Cards. We have about 1 day a week that works out to really work hard on this so it is slow and we both have to be in the right state of mind to work on it. Even though we don't have one totally completed, he has opened up about what he is going through more and we have managed a couple of mood swings together because of the tips we have read.
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Thats fantastic and really gives me hope - my wife has just been diagnosed after years of not knowing what was wrong
ReplyDeleteI love your Feb blog - its exactly what I go thru on a daily basis x
I dont have a url or anything so will have to post this anonymous - but Ive just added u on twitter
what do you do if they don't even want to admit that they are bipolar and they would rather stay sick and miserable half the time than be with you?
ReplyDeleteWow, can I tell you how nice it is to read the someone else is going through the exact same feelings, ups and downs, and just overwhelming days being married to someone with bipolar. I have a few family members who are bipolar but I have never had the experience like I have had being married to someone with the disease. What is truly crazy is that my profile and yours are almost exactly the same, and never in my life have I spent so much time in daily prayer with the Lord to try and get through an hour of day with someone who is bipolar. It almost makes you feel like you are crazy and are by far the worst person/wife on the planet. Like you are somehow not doing all that you can do to make them happy. The funny thing is that everything you do to try and protect yourself and marriage like overindulgence with finances is seen as being controlling or manipulating and all the people who think they know him do not realize that I am fighting every day of my life just to keep our marriage going. Thank God for you and your blogs because I honestly thought that I was the one with the issues until I ran across your blog. I am not sure if you are even doing it anymore but again, thank you that I am not the only one who has to deal with the madiness my husband's bipolar has created for my life.
ReplyDeleteWould love to talk to someone. My husband is bipolar, manic depressed, and Im losing my mind! I love him but I feel helpless my e mail is lisaloomis113@gmail.com
DeleteHi, I have been married to someone with bipolar for 21 years. . . he was dianosed before we were married but I didn't get it . . . my wedding day was interesting and I had no idea who I really had married . . . i am committed to him and he ia good guy when he is well. I have learned a lot and yes, it is good reading these to find out we are not the only ones dealing with this. I have learned that anything can happen. Nothing seems to bizarre anymore. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteMy husband was diagnosed with bipolar disorder type 2 rapid cycling back in October 2007. We have been married for over 5 years now. If you ever need someone to talk please email me at JourneyThroughLifeBlog@gmail.com The diagnosis of bipolar disorder changed the life of the whole family but staying married CAN be done eventhough it can be VERY challenging. You are not alone.
ReplyDeleteI just got married a little over two months ago and didn't realize until I was married what a challenge this was going to be. I knew he was bipolar before we got married, I just didn't realize all that it affected. I have followed your lead and started a blog as well, marriedtotheenigma.blogspot.com.
ReplyDeleteI feel like hugging people like you, people who understand where I am and can help me just because they wrote their experience down.
Thank you. You help me feel less alone.
Are you kidding? I have questions as long as things are going so well for you! How long have you been blogging? How long has this blog been up? I'm bipolar and it's very lonely for all of us. Only by blogging myself and reading others blogs can I find any hope, any sense of community. Bipolar bloggers are the only sense of friendship I have!
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I came across your blog being in a relationship with someone that has been diagnosed as bi-polar for a year now.. Thank god someone shares the same feelings, I thought I was just turning to be a cold hearted partner.
ReplyDeleteI feel as thow im reading somthing I wrote.im sure like most of the wives I am alone no friends or family.I have my kids one is his ither,two ex husband.I love them so much I am constantly protecting them from him attaack eVeryone tiring drained embarrassed sad left on the fence
ReplyDeletesick of lies so inlove with him yet you know this will belike this rest of your life.hate yourself for letting my kkisds deal with miserble shit were do ya draw the line
Thank you for sharing your story. It is comforting to here of successes with bipolar. I have had bipolar for many years and have had great success in keeping my mood swings in control for the most part. There is a lot of good advice on how to deal with bipolar symptoms at http://onlineceucredit.com/edu/social-work-ceus-ba. I hope this is helpful for other bipolar sufferers.
ReplyDeleteIt is comforting to read the stories of others. I was engaged to a wonderful man, who is bi-polar. We planned and dreamed about the wedding for 7 months. Then 'stress' hit. As you may know, his mood 'swung.' Days before the wedding he called it off. I saw it for what it was - a bi-polar mood swing. He didnt see it of course. Soon he was in full depression. He pushed me away and says I am better off with someone 'worthy' of me. I love him and willing to work along side him in this life of bi-polar. When he was 'balanced', he told me he loved me and asked that I not give up on him. I wont give up on him. Is this difficult? YES! But 'he' is worth it.
ReplyDelete"Until God heals your husband"?!?! Seriously, that is one of the more ignorant comments I have ever heard concerning Bi-Polar. A facetious invisible sky wizard has nothing to do with anything relating to personal health. That is a cop-out! Reading read some of your post prior to that comment, I thought that you were someone willing to learn and study what is a common BIOLOGICAL condition. You probably the same kind of idiot xtian that thinks you can "pray the gay away" as well. Hope that god thing works out for you, just seeing that you have not posted in 3 years. I will presume that somehow God chose you above all the other people in the world, and "fixed" your problem or you eventually found your husband dangling from the end of a rope in the basement.
ReplyDeleteThe thing about Christianity is that God does heal and will heal her husband. It probably won't be here on earth but in heaven. It is a real expectation for the future and eternity. Because God will heal all illnesses. It is a promise.
DeletePlease contact me at jsds7772002@yahoo.com. Oh my word!!!! Your story is almost exactly my story....except we've been married 33 years. It's insanely tough. The sleep issues, mood issues, tippy toeing around him, etc. It's a crazy crazy life and we, too, had hoped to be in the ministry....as missionaries. I'm not sure if that is going to happen now. Please contact me. Tks!
ReplyDeleteHow interesting to read this blog. I was diagnosed in 2002, but I look back and know as a small child I suffered so manhy of these symptoms, the worst of the situation is "we think we are normal" and everyone else in life is confused..... What a legacy I have given my children and grandchildren.... yes my daughter is bi-polar and refuses to admit it, my granddaughter is the same along with being ADD, and so are he little brothers... I could and should have kept a blog/journal the last 10 years... the ups and downs, the manic parts, etc. now I know I can deal with things much better since I understand myself.... and since I am now a widow there is not drama, stress, etc. to set me off. I will continue as a fan of your blog.
ReplyDeleteJust found your blog... are you still around? How are you going? My husband is in the process of being diagnosed but even without it being official I know it is him... we are also Christians and I'm struggling with what I deal with and what I know I'll have to deal with in the future.
ReplyDeleteI found your blogg and feel so identified with everything you mention. My husband has very clear syntoms of bipolar disorder and this is affecting our relationship very much. It is good to know someone else understands everything I feel, and it is helping me to learn more about this topic, thankyou for sharing.
ReplyDeleteWhen does one finally except just how out of control their life has been despite their best effort to be "normal?" Married 37 years to my high school sweetheart and found that the marriage would be filled with alcoholism, drugs and immaturity and selfishness on his part. The marriage was always difficult. His controlling, demanding rages and moodiness, verbal abuse and selfishness was scary enough but 2 years ago it became a crisis after I uncovered his 6 year affair with someone I knew well. She was 20 years younger than him and quite pretty. Had her own family but they did it just for "shits and giggles." That's insane eough. But the worst was that his personality and anger and control issues spiralled out of control during those years and he became more verbally, physical and emotinally abusive to me and our 2 children. Therapy and meds for everyone and 2 years later we're all still adjusting to our new family dynamics. We're all on antidepressents and trying to reach stable ground. For the most part, it's working, but husband has cognitive and aggression issues, albeit far tamer and calmer than before. I'm ready to accept that he's bipolar, but he said his therapist did not believe so so he's not going to a psychiatrist for a diagnosis. Kids are away at college. I'm reading everything I can on bipolar so as not to trigger him and help to make the marriage work. Meanwhile I'm in therapy and learning how to manage a different marriage and trust that the worst is behind us. I'm feeling tired and empty and not so sure why afterall things have gotten better. I'm forgiving of the affair; mostly concerned with his trying to move on w/o being aware of his mood swings and anger issues. Can anyone else identify with this?
ReplyDeleteI am a spouse of someone with bi polar disorder too. Since you mentioned you're a believer. Have you two tried Celebrate Recovery? It was a Godsend to our marriage and saved us from divorce and despair and has helped me IMMENSELY cope with the mental illness of my spouse.
ReplyDeleteWe're in this together!
If you would, please check out my website when you get a chance, I am not sure how to promote it best...so not many views. Maybe you could give me some suggestions on how to improve it. www.bipolarspouses.com
Hi,
ReplyDeleteHealthline just launched a video campaign for bipolar disorder called "You've Got This" where bipolar patients can record a short video to give hope and inspiration to those recently diagnosed with bipolar disorder.
You can visit the homepage and check out videos from the campaign here: http://www.healthline.com/health/bipolar-disorder/youve-got-this
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I never have a problem out of my boyfriend as long as he takes his meds. and after seeing his "off behavior" b/c he was NOT taking his meds everyday Im now the one with gives his med to him, no longer him self!.... Im happier now ;)
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ReplyDelete1) If you want your ex back.
(2) if you always have bad dreams.
(3) You want to be promoted in your office.
(4) You want women/men to run after you.
(5) If you want a child.
(6) You want to be rich.
(7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be
yours forever.
(8) If you need financial assistance.
(9) How you been scammed and you want to recover you lost money.
(10)Stop Divorce
(11) CURE TO ALL KIND OF SICKNESS/DISEASES HERE
(12) Winning of lottery
(13) Cure To Hiv/Aids
(14) LOTTERY/LOTTO SPELL WINNING
Email... otisdarko60@yahoo.com...... YOU CAN ALSO ADD US UP ON WHATSAPP USING THIS MOBILE NUMBER:+2348077526136
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